The behaviours my grandfather put in place to cope with the pain of his childhood, became the cause of the pain with which my father learned to cope. My father’s coping mechanisms, in turn, shaped much of my habitual behaviour.
"the individual who wishes to have an answer to the problem of evil as is posed today, has need, first and foremost, of self-knowledge, that is, the utmost possible knowledge of their own wholeness. They must know relentlessly how much good they can do and what crimes they are capable of, and must beware of regarding the one as real and the other as illusion. Both are elements within their nature, and both are bound to come to light in them, should they wish - as they ought - to live without self-deception or self-illusion.” - C G Jung